话说看《Drop Dead Diva》 S01E01的时候，里面一句话把我震住了：there are five stages of grieving: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance。当时我就纳闷啊这编剧真的有才啊，哪里搜肠刮肚发明了如此犀利的一套理论啊。

昨天在HN上偶然再次碰到了这个玩意儿，原来这东东叫Kübler-Ross model

1. Denial – "I feel fine."; "This can't be happening, not to me."
2. Anger – "Why me? It's not fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; "Who is to blame?"
3. Bargaining – "Just let me live to see my children graduate."; "I'll do anything for a few more years."; "I will give my life savings if..." "I understand I will die, but if I could just have more time..."
4. Depression – "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going to die... What's the point?"; "I miss my loved one, why go on?"
5. Acceptance – "It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it."

这个 five stage很容易理解。极端的两头分别是，Denia和Acceptance，一个中间状态Bargaining，然后中间状态和端点之间再生成两个过渡状态Anger和Depression

这个心理学上的model很牛逼。可惜该词条的wikipedia的分类太专业化了。希望有一种类似Category:Adages的列表，用来学习一些大块头名词，吹壳子摆龙门阵很适合套用。哈哈。